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Perfect M m
being the

it is every mothers dream to be the perfect be magnanimous about your childs love for love your children more than anything
mother to her children. the father Last but not least, always let your child feel that
never be jealous when your child shows affection you love him/her more than anything. every now
however, there is no defnition for the perfect for his/her father. it is a mistake to make your and then, let your child know that you prioritise
mother. all mothers are unique in their own child feel that he/she cannot show affection him/her over other things and that you make
ways. how one perceives perfection is indeed for his/her father just because you are jealous. sacrifces for him/her. also, never let your child
subjective. being perfect in this instance means Remember both you and your husband brought feel that you love his/her sibling more.
choosing to act in a manner that is best for the your child into this world. it is normal and healthy
well-being of the children and family. that your child loves both his parents even if he/ the irony of it all is that to be the perfect mom,
she is more affectionate towards the father. you have to show your child that you have faws
the following are some tips to guide you on and weaknesses too that you are not perfect. a
how to be the perfect mom. be willing to apologise child does not want a mother who never errs. the
nobody is perfect and that applies to you too. trick is to be yourself and be the person whom
be supportive When adults make mistakes, it is perfectly fne your child can confde in and relate to. no two
When your child has a new hobby or develops an to apologise. by apologising to your child, it mothers are the same.
interest in a new hobby, be supportive. never put teaches him/her the importance of admitting
down your childs likes and interests. if your son mistakes and apologising. it also teaches him/ bask in your uniqueness and cherish the moments
develops an interest in cooking, do not make fun her the importance of being responsible for his/ you share with your child. the entire process of
of him, discriminate or embarrass him by telling her mistakes and to be forgiving. bringing up your child is a journey flled with
him cooking is meant only for girls. dont forget, unexpected and challenging situations. tackle
guys make great chefs! the same goes for girls each situation with your childs well-being and
who take up judo or play with swords and guns. interests in mind and rest assured that the action
you choose to take will be the perfect one.
be patient
stay calm when your patience is being tested. by joanne ng
do not fy into a fury. instead, explain to your
child what has angered you and why you are
feeling this way. children seldom understand why
their parents get angry over certain issues and
situations. explain to your child why some things
cannot be done and why you cannot tolerate
certain behaviours. if your child gets a scolding
from you because you have had a bad day at work
and your temper is short, it is perfectly fne to tell
him why you are feeling this way. Your child will
appreciate your honesty and candour.

be approachable
it is always good to have your child think that
he or she can come to you anytime with a
problem. to be approachable, you must be a
good listener. Make time for your child and
ask, how was your day? show that you are
interested. When they have something to say,
listen. do not cut them short. always allow
them to fnish what they are saying. Let them
know you can be a friend and that they can
come to you about anything.